How does emotional counselling at Curominds help in strengthening the Self-esteem?

 

Self-esteem indicates what we think about ourselves or how much we value ourselves. The term esteem reflects on the idea of having a good opinion about ourselves. Self-esteem plays an integral role in creating an impact on our life experiences. If you have low self-esteem, there are chances that you start struggling to value yourself. It can affect your life in many ways. You will find it difficult to have faith in yourself and all the relationships you have made. If you make a mistake, you might take it to heart and deny to move on. Your self-care becomes weak and you start letting others hurt you, control you as you are giving preference to them rather than to yourself.

People who have low self-esteem start showing following symptoms and they definitely need emotional counselling so that they can get their high self-esteem back:

·         Feeling worthless or that your life is meaningless

·         Feeling incompetent or inferior

·         Feeling unloved or generally unwanted or disliked

·         Needing others’ approval and opinions

·         Anxiety about being disliked or rejected

·         Frequent or irrational feelings of guilt

·         Self-criticalness or criticalness of others

·         Self-doubt and indecision

·         Fear of making mistakes

·         Self-destructive behaviour

·         Deference to others

·         Comparing yourself to others

·         Discounting your needs, feelings, and wants

·         Staying in relationships where your investment or love isn’t reciprocated

·         Defensiveness and hypersensitivity to criticism or negative feedback

·         Discomfort with compliments

·         Difficulty speaking up, sharing opinions, or setting limits with people

·         Frequent negative thoughts and emotions

·         Being drawn to destructive relationships

·         Difficulty trusting yourself

·         Fear of intimacy

·         Envy of others

·         Difficulty starting and completing tasks or pursuing goals

·         Distorted views of yourself and others

·         Lack of agency – a feeling of “I can’t” instead of “I can”

 

Often, self-esteem issues are rooted in harmful self-talk. Negative thoughts often fall into one of the following categories:

·         Blame: Holding oneself accountable for things outside one’s control. 

·         Example: “My friends started fighting at my party. I’m a bad host.”

 Catastrophizing: Imaging all the bad things which could happen in the future. 

·         Example: “I look so ugly. What if everyone in class makes fun of me when I show up?”

 Denial: Refusing to believe successes or compliments are earned. 

·         Example: “My boss doesn’t really think I’m smart. They’re just saying that to be nice.”

 Overgeneralizing: Interpreting one event as having excessively large consequences. 

·         Example: “I got a bad grade on the test. I’m probably going to flunk out of school.” 

 Polarization: Interpreting events as all good or all bad. 

·         Example: “I flubbed my first line in the speech. I ruined the whole presentation.”

 Projecting: Assuming neutral interactions are signs of disapproval or dislike. 

·         Example: “That couple laughed when I walked into the room. They’re making fun of me, I’m sure.”

 Rehashing: Rehashing scenarios that have already happened, punishing oneself for past mistakes. 

·         Example: “I can’t believe I told such a dumb joke last week. I’m so awkward.”

 

Curominds provides an best emotional counselling where you get counselling to recognize things that trigger low self-esteem like how do you feel when someone stares at you, talks about you etc. The counsellor helps you to release the trapped feelings by learning learning to evaluate the situation and changing negative thoughts. Taking a new and objective view of oneself and the situation is the key to overcoming the powerful psycho-dynamic that is low self-esteem.

In addition to that, Emotional counselling at Curominds also motivates you to monitor your negative self-talk, learn mindfulness activities and meditation, try to get engaged in assertive activities,